steve picked him out from just from the lineup so to speak of 100 young men. and the truth here is that african-american boys are, in fact, performing the lowest in virtually every category quality of life in many cases doesn't matter if they're in a suburban education system or urban education system, they're still under performing. so save my son is about finding ways to help families, good people to become great parents. >> obviously there's going to be no one magic trick that does that, but what are some of the solutions that you've been able to help families implement? >> one of the biggest problems i see with mothers in particular, they parent through guilt. for instance, one of the things they do is any time a child promises to do something, they give them something for it. and they begin rewarding thought. not product. and so many parents especially single parents, they feel like it's my fault that the child is acting the way in which he's acting therefore i need to do something to allay my guilt and what they're doing is only prolonging and making the